How Judgement is Making Your Visibility Problem Worse

About this episode

 Did you know that Asian American women make up less than 3% of leadership in corporate America? Those numbers aren’t about ability—they signal something deeper influencing visibility, leadership, and self-worth.

In this episode of the School of Self-Worth, Nicole Tsong gets personal and practical about one surprising thing making the “visibility” problem worse: judgment.

After years of feeling invisible—the quiet kid who never raised her hand—Nicole candidly shares how judging others became a default coping mechanism. Thoughts like, “Who do they think they are?” or “Why not me?” may feel familiar, but she reveals the truth: judgment never makes space for you, it only reinforces scarcity, hides your gifts, and gives away your power.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, dimmed your own light, or struggled to celebrate other people’s success, then this episode is for you. Let this be your permission slip to stop the scarcity cycle and start seeing (and showing) yourself fully. 

THE TOP LEARNINGS IN THIS EPISODE:  

•  Feeling Unseen Is Common
•  Judging Others Comes From Judging Yourself
•  Judgment Only Hurts You
•  Seeing Yourself Is Foundational
•  Self-Criticism Masks Progress
•  Acknowledging Truth Fuels Growth
•  Visibility Attracts Opportunity

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