The Subconscious Expert
The Subconscious Expert

265. Stalking Her IG Again? Stop Comparing Yourself to Others With This NLP Technique

20 January 2026 24:19 Rebecca Haydon, Mindset Coach & NLP Trainer

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About this episode

You're scrolling Instagram again. You see her. The one who's always launching something new, making the kind of money you want, living the life you dream about. And before you know it, you're 45 minutes deep comparing yourself to others, analysing their content, checking their engagement, and feeling heavy as hell.

This comparison spiral is not costing you only time but your self trust, your self belief, and your ability to build the business you actually want.

In today's episode I'm breaking down the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in comparison mode, what it's doing to your subconscious mind, and an NLP technique called perceptual positions that completely flips the pattern. I'm showing you how to rewire your brain to use other people's success as evidence for what's possible, instead of proof that you're not enough.


This episode is different! We're doing the technique together, so find somewhere you can actually do this work. Because successful women entrepreneurs aren't the ones constantly checking what everyone else is doing. They're the ones backing themselves fully.


Let's break the pattern.

Topics covered on Stop Comparing Yourself To Others:

  1. Why comparing yourself to others is actually your subconscious keeping you safe (and what it's really protecting you from)
  2. The three limiting beliefs driving your comparison spiral and how they're teaching your subconscious you can't be trusted
  3. How comparison destroys your self belief and keeps you invisible (even when you think you're being productive)
  4. The exact NLP technique I use to flip comparison into evidence
  5. Why studying successful women entrepreneurs from the wrong place keeps you stuck in "learning mode" forever
  6. How to rewire your brain to interpret other people's success as proof it's possible for you too
  7. What becomes available when you stop checking what she's doing and start building self trust instead


Connect with Rebecca Haydon:

  1. Apply to work with me
  2. The Subconscious Membership
  3. Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube


Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-with-this-nlp-technique

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