Ep. 40 - When “just stay positive” makes you want to lose it
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About this episode
“Just stay positive” is usually meant with good intentions, no harm or people being intentionally cruel.
But when you’re already overwhelmed, exhausted or emotionally stretched, those words can trigger you and make you completely spiral.
In this episode, we explore why being told to stay positive can feel so unsupportive during a fertility journey. We talk about emotional honesty, the nervous system and why forcing optimism isn’t the same as being resilient.
This is a space where you don’t have to be upbeat, hopeful or okay. You’re allowed to feel what you feel, without judging yourself for it.
If positivity feels like too much right now, this conversation is for you.
Journal prompts to explore after listening:
- What happens in my body when someone tells me to “stay positive”?
- What do I actually need in those moments instead?
- Where have I been forcing myself to be okay when I’m not?
- What would self-kindness look like for me today, without needing to feel positive?
You don’t need to fix anything here.
Just notice.
Connect with me
You can follow me on Instagram @tinafertilitycoach for ongoing support and conversations around the emotional exhaustion and trauma of fertility.
You’re also very welcome to send me a DM — I read them all and I’d genuinely love to hear from you.
To read my full story and learn more about how I support women through their fertility journey, visit
www.tinafertilitycoach.com
Disclaimer
This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice. Any insights shared are based on my personal experience and my work as an NLP Master Practitioner and Life Coach.
Always speak with your doctor, fertility specialist or healthcare team regarding medical questions or decisions.
If you’re experiencing ongoing emotional distress, low mood or feel you need additional support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional such as a counsellor, psychotherapist or psychologist.
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